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Working mum life

I’m Back…

I have been MIA for a few months… I need some real time out for myself and release some of the pressure I have been feeling across all areas of my life. Although I haven’t been posting, I have been writing blog posts on an ad hoc basis…. Whilst I am slowing getting back on the blogging wagon, I think it might be nice to see what I have been up to over the last few months.  Some here you go, enjoy!!


Fitness Weekender – Written back in February


I am just back from a fitness weekend in Torquay, Devon. It was fantastic, just what the doctor ordered. Kiddies were back home with hubby and I was off having fitness filled days, party and cocktail filled nights and feeling like I was back in my twenties. The classes were so much fun (the music and the moves). I know this may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but for those of us that enjoy working out it was fun!!! Not all the classes were for fitness fanatics and they had a range for beginners to advanced. The vibe was inclusive and friendly – it was just want I needed…time out, time to myself and just plain old time!!!


I slept kinda late (past 7am is late in my book) and once I was up I only had to look after Moi…what a life!! I give props to hubby who really managed the 4 day/3 nights with the kids, whilst I was away and didn’t complain or make me feel guilty (although he had a little help from my mum with cooked food – everyday)…He just took it in his stride… So Hubs – Well done Honey!!!


Now with this time out…all for me, I realised how well deserved it was and how I need to do it more often – a few times a year (ideally, but not very likely, but lets work towards something).  So ladies – please don’t forget you! In these child rearing years, I know that we chose to have children and we need to take the rough with the smooth and yes this is what do, but ladies there are times when you need to just take some time back for yourself  – whatever that maybe and make sure you use that time and space to rebuild yourself, relax and just chill out…it is worth it!!!


Vanessa XOXO
I remember a time

I remember the time…

I remember the time…When my youngest was just out of hospital, my husband was going back to work, I was still recovering from my c-section and I had a 3 & half year old and 15 month old. In all honesty, on my first day alone with the kids, I was scared. How was i going to manage, feed, entertain them, from morning to evening. It was a daunting prospect that I was to be in charge of 3 small people and it can all kick off at anytime, with no hope of reasoning with them when it did. I had to find a way to organise myself, the kids and all our independent demands, throughout the day. Somehow I did it for that day and all the days to follow, each day got slightly easier, I learnt from the mistakes of the past, sort advice, read lots and got through it, some days easier than others.

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How to be productive or Not….

Now I have been seeing a lot of videos and reading blog posts on how to be more productive. And at first I thought yes I need to know this, I need to work out how I can fit even more into my already packed day…so I was studiously taking notes on what I could do different and yes I have learnt a thing or two. However it wasn’t until I was relaying to a colleague at work my weekend activities that she said to me…”my goodness you do fit a lot into your weekends….your constantly on the go!” I thought about it and she had a point, I am always on the go, before work, at work, at home in the evenings and on the weekend! But hey I can handle it I’m being productive, right?

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A Letter to My Children

To My Darlings,
You are each my heart beat, my reason for being. I want the best of everything for you all. I have high hopes for you. My dreams for the future for the three of you are to be happy, joyful, enthusiastic and energetic about life. I want you to achieve far and above what I have achieved. I want you to make those right choices about friends, future partners and careers that will make you look back at your life and beam with joy and fulfillment. I want everything good in the world for you and more. I don’t want you to be afraid of failure or of taking a wrong turning, because I know that the strength of God is in you to guide you and you will be true to your soul and your true reason for being.


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Be Mum you want to be - working mum life

Be the mum you want to be.

Do you feel that since you had a child/children there is always someone telling you how you should be doing it! – advice on what you are feeding your children, how you are holding them, how you are entertaining them, your general parenting style – blah blah…Now as long as you are caring for, feeding (healthy foods of course) and showing your child love and generally meeting their emotional and health needs then you and them are all good…right!

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Ease the Pressure – Working Mum Guilt

This the last in my series of “Ease the pressure…” I hope you enjoyed them.


After putting the kids to bed the other night and having a surprisingly easy bedtime routine that night, with no tantrums etc…I started thinking about my reason for working and why I don’t feel working mum guilt anymore, especially as the kids have gotten older. I have posted a video on this topic on YouTube, linked above. In the video I mention 5 areas that I believe have helped me manage (and now eliminate) working mum guilt.

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