Valentines Day…

I have been trying to write this post for a few weeks, knowing Valentine’s Day is looming around the corner and thought wouldn’t it be nice to give my readers some ideas on how to make Valentine’s Day romantic when you have kids. Well, you can’t write what you don’t know…and with three kids I can’t remember the last time I’ve had a truly romantic Valentine’s Day!!!

In terms of whether I believe in Valentine’s Day – I’m not the biggest supporter of a commercialised 1 day of the year to show your undying love to someone, but I am a romantic and don’t mind going with the flow of the day and doing something nice with your love as long as its not too contrived and doesn’t break the bank!

With kids and lots of them…romance on Valentine’s Day, really becomes more of a family affair!  We get lovely gifts of handmade cards etc from the children and are told how much they love us and we reciprocate with hugs, kisses and love you’s. I give hubby a card and usually some chocolate that we can share (How predictable am I…But I love chocolate). Hubby who unfortunately airs on the side of caution when it comes to romance..will also give me a card and occasionally flowers (not his favourite purchase, as he claims that as they are already dead and hence won’t last for long he doesn’t like buying them- ummm not sure I buy that excuse!!!) or a small gift that I am usually pleasantly surprised with…

After a day of activities – work if it is a week day or running around with the kids on a weekend (hence this Sunday), our highlight for the day is a M&S Valentine’s meal for two with all the extras and then a film (I can choose a romantic comedy without the usual groaning from hubby – told you I was a romantic). Now if I am honest with you, I love what has become our traditional Valentine’s celebrations. We try hard to get the kids to bed on time, while Hubby or I start the meal. We may even light a couple of candles and play some old school RnB…

Although, I don’t think you should wait for this one day to spend quality time with your loved one, but with such busy lifestyles and the demands of family life you can easily forget each other in the rush. You should try to make these special moments in your day to day life, however Valentine’s Day can give that added incentive as a scheduled day of romance, to make the effort and do something for each other (same principle as for birthdays, anniversaries etc). But if Valentine’s means nothing to you then that’s fine too…but try to schedule a evening of romance for another day – a date night!

I spoke with a work colleague of mine, leading up to this Valentine’s Day. She has been married for many years with grown up children and she said that her and her husband  do something every Valentine’s Day and she loves it. Even my own grandparents, who were so in love throughout their marriage, would tell me to enjoy these celebrations. Enjoy the moments you can be together just you and your love, make them special in some way and keep them going through out the marriage. It does not have to be extravagant or expensive, or even on Valentine’s Day but it has to mean something for both of you. Hubby and I although pretty routine in our Valentines celebration, have and will continue to make the effort to celebrate in some small way, this day of love with each other!

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